If Violence,Tragedy Or Illness Strike, Will You Choose To Allow Gratitude Into Your Heart?

“Gratitude is the sign of noble souls.” ~Aesop

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A friend of mine recently published a blog post on why she feels grateful about the life she leads.  I enjoyed reading how her days are filled with joy and gratitude.  Her accompanying photographs reveals the beauty that surrounds her, and I felt, for a brief moment, the light that emits from within her heart and soul.

I felt grateful.

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” ~Willie Nelson

This week I learned of tragedies happening to some friends who live far away.  Their pain was palpable as I read their pleas for prayer and good thoughts.  I reflected on my life and my own daily struggles.  Their pleas put my troubles into perspective.

I am grateful.

“To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant,
to enact gratitude is generous and noble,
but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.” ~ Johannes A. Gaertner

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Black arrows on left show where boardwalk used to be before Hurricane Sandy. Black arrows on right show temporary walkway.

On Sunday I spent a magical day with my husband, as we call it in New Jersey, “down the shore.” The weather was perfect without a cloud in the sky.  A gentle breeze blew, keeping the heat of the sun at bay.  The Jersey shore is alive and well in the wake of Hurricane Sandy.  The phrase “Jersey Strong” says it all, and we benefitted from that strength. We stretched out, side-by-side, on our little corner of the beach, talking and laughing and listening to the sound of the waves.

I was grateful.

“No one is as capable of gratitude as one who has escaped the kingdom of night.” ~Elie Wiesel, accepting Nobel Peace Prize (1986)

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An Islamic group claimed responsibility for rocket fire in Israel and declared no Israeli town to be safe.  Two small towns in Nigeria were victim to violent attacks by gunfire that resulted in at least 56 deaths.  Violent clashes in Xinjiang (China) left 21 dead and two people were sentenced to death.  These are a few of the leading stories in today’s news.  Violence is everywhere.  The world is a scary place.  We no longer feel the comfort and safety we felt before the horrific events of 9/11.  Today we are more cautious, knowing that violence happens on our own soil.  These thoughts crawl in and out of my consciousness, and I am aware of the possibilities that surround me.

I steadfastly remain grateful.

“It is impossible to feel grateful and depressed in the same moment.” ~Naomi Williams, Body, Mind and Spirit

I was surprised, thrilled and deeply honored to have my first ever BlogHer post about attending BlogHer with a disability featured on the cover (which I understand is hallowed ground) of the BlogHer website. I wrote it not only for myself, but also for the disability community I speak to every day.  They continue to inspire and empower me.  I am ironically grateful for my diagnosis, because without it I would never have had a chance to meet the incredible people who have entered my life.

I will always be grateful.

“A noble person is mindful and thankful for the favors he receives from others.” ~The Buddha

Good and bad, decent and evil may enter into our lives at any given moment. These are the realities of our world.  These are also the truths of aging. 

I believe we all have two options.  Yes, it really is that simple.  We can choose from Column A or B.

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My wise and beloved uncle once told me, “Life is for the living.”  He told me to enjoy my life, drink it all in, and savor every pleasant moment.  He said the world is a wondrous place, and it was up to me to live each day fully.  He lived by his words, and I choose to do the same.

Which column will you choose?

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How George Bailey And Frank Capra Empower Us

“Strange, isn't it? Each man's life touches so many other lives. When he isn't around he leaves an awful hole, doesn't he?” ~Clarence the Angel (Henry Travers) in “It’s a Wonderful Life”

Thanksgiving is over, and the Christmas season has begun.  The anticipation of the holidays can be either exciting or stressful.  For some, it can be both.

Are the holidays a time of great joy for you or a reminder of great sadness?  Will you be spending time with family and friends, or do you spend the holidays alone? Do you worry endlessly about the many gifts, holiday cards, food preparations, parties, and outfits you need to have ready for the season?

Anyone that knows me knows one of my favorite movies is “It’s a Wonderful Life.” It’s so “Capraesque.”

The first time I saw it was with my dad during a sleepless night.  We kept the lights off in our den and turned on the television to The Late, Late Show. I remember feeling wholly absorbed as soon as the movie began.  It was pure magic watching George Bailey have the chance to see how his life touched the lives of others and to see how their lives would have been different without him.

His family and friends deeply cared about his well-being and worked tirelessly to help him in his time of need. It was a perfect movie with a timeless message.  It was the Utopia of my dreams.

 “You've been given a great gift, George: A chance to see what the world would be like without you.” ~Clarence (Henry Travers) in “It’s a Wonderful Life”

Today, the message of “It’s a Wonderful Life” still holds.  We all have blessings in our lives, even while we endure an illness, lose a loved one, get laid off from a job, or suffer the wrath of Mother Nature.  I’ll repeat it – as Jon Kabat-Zinn teaches us -  “There is more right with you than wrong.”

This time of year is the perfect time to count our blessings.  First, consider what the world would have been like without you.  For me, an “oops” baby, my parents would not have had a daughter.  My son would never have been born.  My cats may not have been rescued. Many people with MS wouldn’t have me as their advocate. You would not be reading An Empowered Spirit. What would the world be like without you?

Now onto my top blessings:  Hug my husband, chat with my son, reminisce with my parents, joke with my brothers, take short walks, ride my new bike, perform gentle yoga, use my voice via my writing, knit scarves for orphans, play with my cats, dine with good friends, lecture on MS at nursing homes, smell my peonies, revel in the changing seasons, listen to good music, enjoy art, theater, and movies. What are your blessings? Unfortunately, everyone is not as blessed as we are.  There is a lot of sadness and tragedy in the world.

While attending Hebrew School as a child, I learned from classic rabbinic literature about “tikkun olam” (world repair), “tzedakah” (charitable giving), and gemilut hasadim (acts of kindness).

These three ideas have been influential in my life.  Now that I’m in my Second Chapter, I feel even stronger about giving back to less fortunate people.  I think there is a social responsibility we should all assume to try to care for one another whenever possible.

Save one life, and you save the world.

This holiday season, let’s take some time to realize our blessings and give the gift of ourselves to those in need.  They are our family, our friends, and our neighbors.

You may not know them, but they are a part of our community – the world community.

Let’s reach out to them, and we, like George Bailey, can collectively be the “richest man in town.”

 

“[In book inscription] Remember, George: No man is a failure who has friends.” ~” It’s a Wonderful Life”

  Here are a few charitable organizations that have a special meaning for me.  There are endless opportunities to help others by donating your time and money.

Charity Watch: Before donating any money to a charity, I research it to ensure it is reputable.  At Charity Watch, “The American Institute of Philanthropy (AIP) is now known as Charity Watch - a name that better reflects our role as the independent, assertive charity watchdog that you rely on.”

BlueWaveNJ Cares (Hurricane Sandy): If you want to help victims of Hurricane Sandy, check out this website.  They provide information on where you can go to help and list relief organizations like The Red Cross and The Salvation Army, which collect goods for needy families.

Pancreatic Cancer Action Network: After losing a beloved relative this year to pancreatic cancer, this organization is near and dear to my heart.  This type of cancer is insidious and has no cure.  Let’s help to make strides toward stopping it in its tracks. The PCAN is: “.. fully committed to providing the most comprehensive set of programs and services to fight this complicated disease. Our mission drives our commitment and passion: to advance research, support patients, and create hope for anyone facing pancreatic cancer.”

The American Heart Association: I collect money from our neighborhood for AHA each year because it is also dear to me. They aim to “ build healthier lives, free of cardiovascular diseases and stroke. That single purpose drives all we do. The need for our work is beyond question.”  Their advocacy, research, and education work is crucial to help us all maintain healthy lives.

The Humane Society: “The Humane Society of the United States is the nation's largest and most effective animal protection organization. We help animals by advocating for better laws to protect animals; conducting campaigns to reform industries; providing animal rescue and emergency response; investigating animal cruelty cases; and caring for animals through our sanctuaries, wildlife rehabilitation centers, emergency shelters, and clinics.” Sav-A-Pet: Please consider adopting or donating - our furry loved ones need us. “SAV-A-PET is a 501(c)(3) non-profit charity organization that rescues injured-homeless animals, repairs any injuries and perform surgery if needed, spay or neuter, vaccinate and provide them with safe shelter/home at the Westheimer Animal Clinic Bellaire. Sav-A-Pet has been in operation since 1988 and has had many happy endings thanks to our community. Sav-A-Pet is not a humane shelter or city shelter; we are a private rescue group in which prospective entrants must be approved before entering them into our program if space is available.”

Save the Children: “Save the Children is the leading independent organization creating lasting change in the lives of children in need in the United States and worldwide.”

Middle Mutts: I found this organization on Facebook, and they are amazing.  “Middle Mutts is a 501(c)3 Non-Profit that works as the "middle man" between high kill shelters and rescue groups. We facilitate the rescue of death row animals by securing rescue commitments and offering transport to our approved rescue partners.”  If you love animals, please consider donating (or adopting!) to Middle Mutts.

The National Multiple Sclerosis Society: “The National MS Society is a collective of passionate individuals who want to do something about MS now—to move together toward a world free of multiple sclerosis. MS stops people from moving. We exist to make sure it doesn't.”

UNICEF: Remember “Trick or treat for UNICEF”?  The kids no longer collect on Halloween, but UNICEF needs our help. “UNICEF is the driving force that helps build a world where the rights of every child are realized. We have the global authority to influence decision-makers and a variety of partners at the grassroots level to turn the most innovative ideas into reality.  That makes us unique among world organizations and those working with the young.”

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